An old Cherokee story

IndianI love this old Cherokee story which may be familiar to some of you. It shows how true happiness comes from within and the mindset we choose to grow.

‘One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”‘

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Being Visible

jamie smartI have just returned from being on a magical seminar run by Jamie Smart of Salad called ‘If the Secret’s so good, where’s my Ferrari?,’ which is a great title and gets you thinking, and curious if you’ve seen the film ‘The Secret’.  It came out a few years ago and now has a whole industry relating to the art of abundance – or not.

Because the truth is whilst The Secret is a great starting point to realising how universal laws work in your own life it’s not the whole picture.  And really that’s the point.  You watch the film, if it resonates you take on board what’s relevant for you, and then you might want to progress investigating deeper.

That’s where Jamie came in for me.  He put together this amazing 2 day seminar, and helped those of us there to uncover clarity of purpose to live life being fully alive.  You don’t get Positive Living much higher than that do you.  I was almost numb at the end as I began the process of assimilating everything I had heard, and been part of.  This process continues as I write this, and I very much want to grow my ‘inside out mindset’ as part of my own Positive Living.

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Attack and defence

pricklyAs a Life Enhancing Coach I do quite a bit of networking and I enjoy it. I must be honest and tell you that I mostly go to meet people (old friends and new) to chat, catch up and have fun.  So today I went off to a networking event and arrived about 40 minutes after it had started.  I didn’t think too much about this as normally you just turn up and join in – very informal.

But today it was being run at a new venue and things had changed. As I said hello and sat down I was immediately asked to introduce myself.  Nothing wrong in that I just wasn’t prepared and I‘ve done it enough times to be able to deliver the goods.  I apologised for being late and gave the bare facts of who I am and what I do.  I must have given the impression that I wasn’t very comfortable with this as the Chairlady followed up with advice on standing up with confidence and presentation skills!

But here’s where it got interesting.  This was followed by The Chairlady’s going to great lengths to show how much clients could get from her treatments (she’s a Physcotherapist) rather than just going through ‘techniques’ which probably would not dig out the root cause ‘and nothing can be sorted if the root cause isn’t dug out’.  I don’t take things personally but it felt like an attack – maybe you had to be there.  I’m good at what I do precisely because of my skills at homing in on undercurrents and what people are not saying. Besides this wasn’t about me but about one form of therapy against another.

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What stops you from moving forward?

light bulb momentWhat stops you from moving forward? Recently I had time to reflect on this issue in depth. I was working at a venue where there were lots of other people and as I recall I was having a ball. The atmosphere was electric and everyone was having a good time.

That is until I fell flat on my face and bruised my dignity! My attention got diverted for one quick second and ‘boom’ down I went like a lead balloon. For what seemed like an eternity to me (actually about 10 seconds) I lay spread-eagled, mortified and too embarrassed to raise my head. I was convinced that everyone would be laughing at me and therefore how could I possibly lift myself up.

But of course eventually I had to, sooner rather that later in case anyone thought I was unconscious and rang for an ambulance – this being the only thing that could make my situation worse. And so, slowly, very gingerly I raised my head using my eyes to make a quick furtive sweep of the room.

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The Caged Bird

caged birdI came across this tale and it spoke to me of how the beliefs we hold about ourselves can stop us from making the most of the opportunities that come our way and then of course the moment has passed and it’s too late…….

‘When I was young, at my grandparents house they always had a bird in a cage in the living room. It had been there for as long as I remember and spent it’s days happy on it perch looking out at the comings and goings of the day and chirping to say hello to visitors. Sometimes it would look out the window and see to birds in the garden flying free and would wonder what it would be like to out there… when it thought of adventure and independence it’s heart raced and it stood a little taller on its perch. Sometimes a bird would visit the windowsill and puzzle at the sight of a bird in a cage. It was at times like that the bird felt most miserable and its shoulders slumped.

One day, my Grandfather had been cleaning the cage and putting out fresh water when he forgot to close the door and went out for the day. All alone the bird started to think about its position and her heart began to race as she looked outside to see the other birds swooping and soaring to their hearts delight.

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The Trapeze Story

trapeze artisteI came across this by Steve Goodier and it has been put together so clearly what risk taking is all about that I wanted to share it with you.

‘Life is like a performer on a trapeze.  She swings back and forth.  And then she encounters another trapeze bar. It is swinging toward her and it is empty. Now she has a decision to make. She may continue to hang onto her present bar, or let go and grasp the new one. But she can’t do both! She can’t hang onto the old and grasp the new with her other hand. She HAS to decide which she wants!

If she chooses to let go of the past and grasp the future, she finds herself suspended for a moment in mid-air. She has lost her security and has yet to safely grasp the new bar. It is a risk! But a risk worth taking, for the new bar will travel to new places and her life will move forward.

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A tale of two travellers

AthensToday the Cygnus Review magazine dropped through the letterbox.  It’s a company that sells book to feed the soul and assist you to grow.  It started with an article that included the following story from the ancient Greeks which I am sharing with you.

Asclepius and the Two Travellers – Asclepius was walking in the countryside just outside Athens.  He was hot, tired and very thirsty when he eventually came across a small stream bubbling out of the mountain side.  He sat down in the cool shade to rest and drink from this refreshing stream.  No sooner had he stopped, however, than a traveller came by.

‘Excuse me’ said the traveller, ‘I’m on my way to Athens and since I’ve never been there before I’m wondering what it’s like.  Can you tell me?’  ‘Whereabouts have you come from?’ asked Asclepius.  ‘Piraeus’ replied the traveller. ‘And what’s that like?’ asked Asclepius.  ‘Oh it’s a dreadful place’ replied the man.  ‘It’s full of noise, bustle and traffic; it’s dirty and full of unfriendly people.’  ‘Well’ replied Asclepius ‘I expect you’ll find Athens just the same.’  ‘Oh’ said the man and went on his way.

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Be in the flow

In the flowA good way to help you live positively is to ‘be in the flow’.  But what does that mean?  I’ve always taken it to mean living in the present moment.  You can live in past, you can live in the future or you can live in the present moment but you can only live in one of those places at any one time.

That’s a fact.  Of course there will always be times when you have to dip in and out of different time frames but if you can learn how to live in your present time you will discover what being in the flow is all about.

Take the past.  It’s that place where everything has already happened.  It’s over and it’s gone.  But take a moment to reflect just how much the past influences the decisions you make now.  This is because your mind is always pattern matching what occured in your past and is trying it’s best to stop you from having repeat bad experiences.

Useful at times but this can also stop you from trying something new.  Something that could move you from an ok place to a wonderful place.  From the perspective of everything not working out too good you then plan your future.  Because you are focussed on what happened before you colour you plans with barriers.  You might imagine the worst that could happen without allowing for the unexpected.

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Build on your wins

building blocksToday’s tip is centered on growing any positive results that you’ve already made in your life. Remembering the wins can be hard if you’re in a place where nothing feels good, or you don’t believe you ever had any positive results.

Take a moment to find something that brought a smile to your face, or maybe enabled your heart to lift. It might have been the first flowers peeping out after winter.

Look around you. Can you see the first daffodils, or crocus, dancing in the March breezes.  It doesn’t have to be complicated just whatever feels good to you. Make a note of how it made you feel.

When life gets you down, you can remind yourself of how it felt. Either read your notes or think about it.  Make sure you bring to mind exactly how good it felt. In life, ‘like attracts like’, and you are on a journey to turn your life from negative living to positive living.

It’s amazing when you discover just how much you can lift your spirits by holding that positive feeling.  Step by step you being to grow your positive feelings, until it becomes a new habit where the good feelings outweigh the bad.

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