I’m Responsible

life loves youOver time, the phrase ‘I’m responsible for my actions’ has guided me as I move through the world. Getting to grips with what I’ve understood it to mean, I’ve tried to take action in a responsible way.

But, I think I misunderstood what I now believe to be true. Of course, what’s true for me may not be true for you. I thought I’d share my thoughts on what’s true for me.

I believe ‘I’m responsible for my actions’ is a guide to living the best life possible. It’s not complex. In fact, it’s dead simple. You, me and everyone else out there is responsible for their own actions.

When you know everything you experience is always about you, and not about who else appears to be involved, life opens up in magical ways because you’ll be taking action from a different place.

A place within you that is the source of everything that you are.

Everything we experience, everything/everyone that brings out the judgemental elements of our character, who gets our back up, or makes us angry is all about our feelings, our thoughts and our reactions.

It has nothing to do with the other person/people on the scene. Doesn’t matter how much of the brown stuff they’re throwing our way.

I can see how it may appear to seem that way. Sorry, but they’re living out their own experiences, and by coincidence, you’re a player in their dramas, showing them what’s going on inside of them.

Every day new dramas show up to be played out in any way we see fit. They show up to help us grow our inner well-being. To enable us to touch base with our innate inner wisdom.

The outer shell of us is where all the action takes place.

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Being True To You

being true to youbeing true to you is simple,

close you eyes to see the truth of who you truly be,

take deep breath’s to inhale your vibrant inner beauty,

open your eyes to the wonder of love’s magic,

choose to live from your heart,

be true to you

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Judgement Hides in Many Guises

judgement hides in many guisesReading a poem by Brian Bilston about how he felt when offered a free copy of the Daily Mail, made me realise how judgement hides in many guises.

The comments following the humorous poem mostly appeared to stand in the strongly dislike the Daily Mail camp. Opinions on a newspaper that were shared by many of the commenters.

Luckily we live where everyone has the right to express their opinions.

I wondered what it was about the Daily Mail’s way of expressing their news, that caused such strong reactions.

Truthfully, all newspapers appear similar to me, so I guess people read what resonates the strongest with their own views. Like attracts like doesn’t it. You pay your money and you make your choice.

It doesn’t mean you or I have to like the choices made.

It does mean we have to let it go without being judgemental.

The truth is that our opinions can make other people’s blood boil.

Sometimes, discussions can lead to changes of opinions.

Or, they can lead to the ‘I’m right, you’re wrong’ argument’s that make you angry.

Sometimes I find it hard to differentiate between opinions and being judgemental. I find I can be judgemental when, touching a raw spot something slips under my radar, hiding in one of judgements many guises.

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Learning Patience

church plaqueLearning patience isn’t a strong point of mine. I find it so difficult when, I don’t get a response after contacting others with questions that seem important to me.

For example, I recently sent 3 texts to: 1) make travel arrangements; 2) help a friend with a funeral she’s arranging; and 3) to check my sister wasn’t caught up in the recent French floods.

Worry, worry, worry, tick, tick, tick. Little time bombs exploding in my head.

Waiting for information seriously damages my peace of mind.

I know what I’m feeling is created by me, and although it appears to be a symptom of what’s happening outside of me, it’s just an illusion.

Here’s what happens. Because the information I’m waiting for is important to me, I’m under the illusion it’s a priority for the other person.

I have no idea what their priorities are. And yet, the things I don’t know, but want to know, become the stories I tell myself to fill the missing gaps.

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Love is the Centre of Being

dandelion headIt’s the truth. Love is the centre of being. Not everyone believes that to be true for them.

Nevertheless, it’s true for each and every one of us.

I never knew it was true for me for a long time.

I thought love came with a price tag. Was something to be earned. Awarded to me by others.

That it had to be bought in some way. As in you do something for me and I will love you in return.

If I wasn’t given the love I thought I’d earned I spiralled downwards into one very unhappy person.

Of course, it was never my fault. It was always the fault of the other person who had reneged on their promise(s).

I guess I was what you’d call emotionally ‘high maintenance’.

I played the blame game every day, not knowing that the currency of love doesn’t have a price tag in any way or form.

I never knew that love was the centre of our being and that no matter what I did, or said, love would never leave me.

I never knew that the first person I had to learn to love was myself. That I didn’t have to prove myself to anyone. That just being me was enough.

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The Joy of Being in the Flow

go with the flow_1024I’m often asked how to experience the joy of being in the flow. To be fully present in each moment, rather than chasing the past or second guessing the future.

The truth is I find it difficult to know how to respond.

I know how I get into my own flow. I have a feeling that because we’re all unique it’s going to be different for each of us.

Some people find it by going into a meditative state. And while that provides a blessed state of peace for most, I’ve never mastered the art of meditation.

For me, a walking meditation is joyful. I walk by myself, letting my mind go where it wants to. As the thoughts shift, swirl and move on, my mind gradually goes into empty mode.

Whilst this is awesome to experience, it doesn’t really answer the question because mediation is being in the flow whilst meditating.

I’m trying to answer the question of being in the flow whilst awake, eyes wide open, living in the moment. To be aware of everything that’s occurring as it occurs and responding, or not, from a place of inner well-being.

I’m a normal person, which means I do a fair bit of chasing my past, as well as second-guessing my future. I drift into daydreams of what I’d do if I won the lottery, or re-live events that either worked or, didn’t!

The trouble is, both the past and the future, take me away from living moment by glorious moment. I can’t explain it very well, but there’s something about taking each moment as it happens that brings it alive in a totally different way.

Once experienced to the full it becomes addictive in a good way. You just know that this is how life is meant to be lived. Read more »

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I Want To Be Magic

pink spiralI want to be magic.

I want to touch the heart of the world and make it smile.

I want to be a friend of elves and live in a tree.

Or under a hill.

I want to marry a moonbeam and hear the stars sing.

I don’t want to pretend at magic anymore.

I want to be magic.

Thank you Charles de Lint.

This is too beautiful not to share.

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If Your Mind Is Scattered, It Is Quite Powerless

scattered mindThe Dalai Lama said ‘If your mind is scattered, it is quite powerless.’ It’s true isn’t it.

Today’s world can be a whirlwind of scattered actions. Family, work, friends, you name it, something or someone, always seems to be wanting a little piece of you.

How can you think things through, when you’re being pulled this way and that?

Funny thing the mind. Faced with the bombardments that hit it over the course of a day, it does what it knows best to cope. It goes on to autopilot.

What’s wrong with that?


Autopilot means you’re feeling powerless as your scattered mind shuts down. Consciously unconscious if you like.

It’s not a good place to make decisions from is it?

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Make Love Your Daily Mantra – Inspirational Insight

make love your mantra

Life is how you feel, followed by what you think it will be. Feel love, be love, live love. Make love your daily mantra…..

The Beatles once sang ‘Love is all there is’, and it’s probably the truest line they sang. Once you know the absolute truth that Love is real, whilst fear is an illusion that only exists in your mind, freedom beckons.

Fear is what your thoughts conjure up when life appears to go wrong.

Tuning into fear-based thoughts takes you away from love. Luckily, because it’s only your thoughts, you can say to yourself ‘I don’t have to think that’.

Next, check into how you are feeling. If you’re not feeling the lightness of being that is love, ask yourself ‘Who does this belong to?’, followed by ‘Please release this with love, with consciousness attached, never to return in any time, space or reality’.

This will release anything that never came from you in the first place. You only thought it came from you. It most probably came from a well meaning other. The great news is that thoughts can always be changed.

How you feel will always trump what you think. Lightness of being will always feel good.

Make love your daily mantra. When you return to your natural state of love and lightness, you will be better placed to cope with the challenges that life’s curve-ball throws your way. The true price of Love is your Inner Well-Being – are you willing to p(l)ay?

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Whose Junk Is It Anyway?

whose junk is it anywayThe thought, ‘Whose junk is it anyway?’ crept into my consciousness as I was walking along. I was feeling a bit low but didn’t really know why. sometimes life’s like that isn’t it.

I went for a walk to blow the cobwebs away. To enable me to find a little clarity, to give myself space to move back into lightness.

As I walked, thoughts were drifting in and out, high and low, happy and sad. Running the full gamut of emotions, letting them do their own thing, I strode peacefully onwards.

For some reason, I began to think of a party I’d attended a long, long time ago. I was the driver that night, so no alcohol for me. 

I heard, a less than flattering remark about the nicest, the kindest, the most generous person I knew.

They’d become the butt of an alcohol fuelled, trying to be funny, mean-spirited remark. I said I didn’t like their comments and walked away, their laughter ringing in my ears. 

Truthfully, I thought no more of it. Until that moment on my walk, I never realised that I was still holding onto that old junk. 

Junk that wasn’t mine, wasn’t even about me, but nevertheless it was rattling around on some level of my consciousness. I had no idea it was so firmly lodged in my sub-consciousness.

As I remembered, it had brought back all the feelings I’d felt at the time. And yet, it was over. In the past. How crazy is that?

I knew I’d been given a gift. It was out in the open, which meant I had an opportunity to release it. Then I got to thinking about what other junk I might be holding onto that wasn’t mine. Read more »

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