I came across the story ‘Gift of Insults’ and it made me think about how we deal with insults, rudeness and unpleasantness shown to us by some of the people we encounter.
You don’t know in advance how a person is going to react when you speak to them. You can’t always avoid them as they may be a work colleague, a friend going through a bad patch, a family member who is always rude – the list is endless.
We live in a world where a large proportion of people use such tactics as a way of being in control of any given situation. It’s worked in the past for them so in all probability it will work for them again. Not necessarily.
If you can learn not to react to such unpleasantness you can walk away with dignity and your self esteem intact. Simply because you know that their way of dealing with life isn’t yours and it’s just how they are. Nothing to do with you or the occasion – just them and their ways.
Another bonus is the fact that when they realise their bullying tactics don’t work with you they will stop. Not straight away but sooner or later they will change how they deal with you. Why? Because you have shown them you respect yourself enough not to react.
Your reactions are saved for the times when you genuinely want to bring them into play. The friend or family member who needs your help. You can bypass their way of showing distress and be the shoulder to lean on if you choose. Enjoy the story…..
“Gift of Insults – Unknown
There once lived a great warrior. Though quite old, he still was able to defeat any challenger. His reputation extended far and wide throughout the land and many students gathered to study under him.
One day an infamous young warrior arrived at the village. He was determined to be the first man to defeat the great master. Along with his strength, he had an uncanny ability to spot and exploit any weakness in an opponent. He would wait for his opponent to make the first move, thus revealing a weakness, and then would strike with merciless force and lightning speed. No one had ever lasted with him in a match beyond the first move.
Much against the advice of his concerned students, the old master gladly accepted the young warrior’s challenge. As the two squared off for battle, the young warrior began to hurl insults at the old master. He threw dirt and spit in his face. For hours he verbally assaulted him with every curse and insult known to mankind. But the old warrior merely stood there motionless and calm. Finally, the young warrior exhausted himself. Knowing he was defeated, he left feeling shamed.
Somewhat disappointed that he did not fight the insolent youth, the students gathered around the old master and questioned him. “How could you endure such an indignity? How did you drive him away?”
“If someone comes to give you a gift and you do not receive it,” the master replied, “to whom does the gift belong?”
This story and others can be found at www.Spiritual-Short-Stories.com. Isn’t it amazing that every rude person you meet can be a gift towards learning Positive Living if you choose.