Being the Best

Life is meant to be an expression of your joyWhat does being the best mean to you? To me, being the best is when you shine radiantly, as you give your all to living life with passion, whatever you’re doing.

So what does shining radiantly mean? It’s all in your level of engagement. When you give something your best shot, you find you become absorbed in the matter in hand too.

It’s the only thing on your mind as it commands your full attention. Something you’re doing because you want to do.

Not always something you’re particularly keen on, you decide to do it anyway. You shine radiantly because you have committed 100% to the task in hand. Giving it your best shot, and then, something extra, until completion.

The difference is that you found a way to enjoy yourself whilst dancing through it. Simply being the best you that you can be.

This is a key factor to growing, and enhancing, your Inner Well-Being. Planting, feeding and growing, your own little seeds of happiness, as you make your choices on a daily basis.

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Inspirational Insight for Inner Well-Being – Rays of Love

I am a soul who speaks‘Enjoy the rays of love and abundance, dancing merrily alongside you. It’s your inner beauty shining forth for all the world to see.’ – Jan Marchant

I bet you never realised how beautiful you truly are. Honestly, your inner beauty shines out from every inch of you, as you dance through life.

It’s taken commitment to unmask who you secretly yearned to be, but now you stand strong, wrapped in the love of a benevolent Universe.

You’ve explored the highs and lows of love and fear.

Some days have been easier than others.

Other days have been tempests that raged inside, and outside of you, trying to disrupt the love you’ve been growing.

Inner well-being is your prize. Love and abundance your gift from a benevolent Universe.

For an abundant life is full of loving acts, loving people and endless opportunities to be love in action.

The sun, the stars and the moon shower you with rays of love and abundance, enhancing your bewitching beauty.

Shine bright, you bobby dazzler you. Because your love is truly a gift to the world.

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You are the Mirror of Your Thoughts

Marcus-Aurelius-Quote-Sallie-KeysI’ve been thinking about how you are the mirror of your thoughts, and how it affects every single moment of life.

Marcus Aurelius said; ‘The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts’. A truth that hits you squarely between the eyes. It’s also a truth that many choose to ignore.

I have this sneaky feeling that everyone I meet, every action I take, is a test designed to help me grow my inner well-being.

Don’t like a remark, do I snap a rejoinder, or do I smile and let it pass. Depends on the person making the remark! Guess what? My reaction is neither here, nor there. What’s important is what I’m thinking about the original remark. What substance am I giving it.

I may be smiling sweetly to avoid getting into a discussion that may or, may not, prove my point of view. Or, I might throw my point of view into the ring to see what response I provoke.

Horses for courses. It all depends how the mood takes me.

The point is that it’s irrelevant. The only thing that has any bearing on my inner well-being is the actual thought I’m having about that original remark.

Am I smarting on the inside, feeling slightly foolish at what appears to be a ‘dig’ at me, or my understanding of something? Do I think I’ve been insulted, been the butt of someone’s joke, or just uncomfortable as it pushed a ‘poor me’ button?

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Loves Testing Times

Loves Testing TimesHave you noticed how many testing times you’ve lived through? The testing times are challenges sent by the Universe. Designed to move us from fear to love, they can range from easy to deal with to life changing experiences.

Isn’t it strange how often similar scenarios show up, literally testing our abilities to deal with what life throws at us. So, what exactly is going on?

My experience is that the testing times will show up in different guises until, you get what you need to grow your understanding. It’s about learning to love ourselves, warts and all.

Once we pass one test, by detaching from any emotional attachment to the outcome, we are moved onto the next challenge required to grow our inner well-being.

We come in the world happy, but helpless, dependent of those around us to help us grow. Physically as well as mentally. It’s a true testing time to communicate isn’t it!

Unless you’re one of the fortunate babies, most of what you learnt will have come from fear rather than love. And that includes fear from loving adults who, with the best intentions, only wanted to protect from the big, bad world.

You learnt to be good, to behave in a certain way, to fit in with those around you. Love became a commodity to be bought or sold. It’s the way of the world.

But, love is everyone’s birthright, and so begins the journey to return to love.

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Inspirational Insight for Inner Well-Being – Joy

Joy‘Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within.’ – Eckhart Tolle

Pleasure is defined as a state of feeling pleased.

It can include amusement, gratification, indulgence, or simply be a delightful experience.

What’s your pleasure?

Here’s the thing. Pleasure comes from seeking something created outside of you.

There’s nothing wrong with that, it would be pretty dull without life’s pleasures to lift, and amuse us.

Joy is something else altogether.

It’s an intense feeling that fills you with the happiness of being you.

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The Joy of Surrendering to Love

The Joy of Surrendering to LoveThe joy of surrendering to love is one of life’s blessings. Unfortunately, the twin nemesis of expectations and neediness often create  barriers to love, whilst allowing fear to slip through and hold sway.

How do I know? I know because, I allowed myself to be a victim of expectations and neediness for a large chunk of my life. I believe it started at a young age when, I confused getting my genuine needs met, with demanding as much attention as I could get.

The more my demands were met, the more my expectations grew into the belief that, if I cried long enough I would eventually get the attention I desired. The problem was I never grew out of it. Consequently, without realising, I had placed my happiness and well-being into the hands of others.

Don’t blame my parents. With five of us to attend to they did a brilliant job. Feelings, emotions and all points in-between never came into the equation. It wasn’t the ‘done thing’ to discuss topics such as these. Goodness me, NO.

The problems, growing from my expectations and all-consuming neediness, was never addressed. Hey ho, that’s just how things were.

Honestly I grew up in a golden age. I’ve always known how lucky I am. It didn’t matter how much I believed my expectations were left unmet, or my neediness side-lined, I knew that, nevertheless, I was a lucky person.

As long as I behaved at school, ate what was put in front of me and returned home at the proper times, I could pretty much run free. I had friends and family to share good times with, I was blessed.

If the world was my oyster, why did I pushed it away? The dust in my eyes prevented me from appreciating how blessed I was. With my expectations spiraling out of control, I grew my attitude of wanting more instead.

This attitude spilled over into all areas of my life. And, let’s face it, what you focus on grows.

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Making Do and Mend Syndrome

Making Do and Mend SyndromeMaking do and mend syndrome sufferers, well they make do and mend. But what does that mean? It means that make do and menders never, ever think they’re good enough for something better. Using cost as an excuse, there’ll always be a reason for making do with what they already have.

I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with that, if everything still performs as it should. But you’d be amazed how many people put up with second best. Even when it costs time and money.

Precious time that can never be replaced, let alone what it does to your inner well-being as it saps the life out of you.

Like all syndromes, make do and mend is such a familiar way of being, that most of the time, sufferers don’t even know they’ve got it. The daily grind goes on and on, relentlessly diverting your peace of mind, happiness and inner well-being. It’s literally soul destroying.

Drip. Drip. Drip. The torment goes on until you recognise that there could be a problem.

For example, I’ve been working on my laptop for a number of years now. It’s familiar, I know where everything is. I know how to boot it, to fiddle with it until it does what I want it to and I keep forgetting to investigate upgrading it. At least, that’s what I’d been telling myself.

But my laptop is my work horse. It’s my communications life line. Do I want to work with a donkey or a thoroughbred?

It doesn’t matter how many times I dangle a carrot at it, it just doesn’t want to play ball any longer.

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The Challenge of Being Happy

Be HappyThich Nhat Hanh wrote: ‘The amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart’. A challenging statement if you believe being happy depends on what’s going on in your life.

It’s only true if you let what’s going on determine whether you’re happy. Believe it, or not, you always get to choose whether you live a fear full life, or a love full live.

It’s a lot easier to be happy when you choose love.

It took me a long time to learn that freedom, or happiness, isn’t something you search for outside of yourself. I learned that it already exists deep within everyone.

Once you know that for the truth, your focus turns to finding ways to free yourself.

We all face challenges. Those challenges are different for each of us. The real challenge is whether you let them determine your actions through fear or love. Each, and every, challenge is an opportunity to free up a little more space in your heart.

When actions are taken from a place of fear inspired thoughts, it’s impossible to be happy. Thoughts such as; ‘YOU’LL NEVER BE FREE OF THIS’, YOU’LL NEVER BE HAPPY AGAIN’, play havoc with your mind, keeping you in a fearful place.

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Inspirational Insight for Inner Well-Being – Creating Yourself

creating yourself‘Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself’ –  George Bernard Shaw

Are you on a seemingly, never ending journey, visiting many destinations in a quest to find the real you?

The YOU, you might be, could be, or should be, if only you found yourself.

Good news alert.

You no longer have to spend time looking to find yourself.

Instead, make a list of all the things you’ve uncovered so far. Highlight all the things you love doing, being, having.

Be creative, the bits you love best are the real you showing up at every opportunity, allowing ‘you’ to shine your inner light into the world.

Doesn’t it feel good inside to be the real you?

Like finding a shoe that fits, feels, and looks fantastic.

Have fun creating you, the person you are meant to be, waiting inside of you all along – WOW.

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People Let You Down

People let you downPeople let you down. They do don’t they. All the time. It’s a fact of life.

The road to your hell is paved with the good intentions of well meaning others.

The ones who never got around to keeping their promises. 9 times out of 10 they didn’t even let you know they wouldn’t be helping you after all.

The thing is, I’m almost certain most of them wanted to keep those promises. They meant well at the time.

But, for one reason or another, they let you down.

You wait, and you wait, and then you wait a bit longer. Finally the penny drops.

It’s not going to happen. Never.

Often those well meaning others live their life being a good friend, or neighbour, and if you were to mention you’d been let down, they wouldn’t understand. After all anyone can see just how much they do for others!

They might be hurt. They might feel guilty. They might even get mad at you for reminding them!

Life’s a bitch, but you have to find a way to get over the the no shower-uppers.

Because if you don’t. It will eat you up. From the inside-out.

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